Dear John,[ ... ]
Appreciate the long time you took in putting down your queries. I'd like to help but unfortunately don't have domain expertise in the areas you're having problems.
Your mail is more likely to be read if it was shorter. May I suggest you use http://pastebin.freeswitch.org/ to paste all your debug messages and configurations.
Please ignore this message if you don't agree with the strategy.
Thanks,
Sidharth