Just to confirm that now i got the java softphone (http://sourceforge.net/projects/peers/) working nicely with Freeswitch,on my LAN. Next, going to try to make calls from outside the LAN and see how it goes.  The problems i was experiencing had all to do my network configurations (laptop is both wired and on wireless, the softphone had issues deciding which of the IPs to use, so i switched off wireless).